HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP…

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don’t throw away true love because of a passing storm

3. Know each other’s temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations

5. Don’t let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings. Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can’t pretend for long

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don’t talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can’t be taken back

10. Don’t be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don’t use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse

11. Don’t disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you.